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The moment you start liking someone, or developing feelings, how you feel day to day/ hour by hour, changes depend on how much attention he is giving you
And your mind starts doing things you can't quite control.
First of all, at the beginning, you fall quickly, you can’t seem to take it slow like your friends tell you to do, and you get way too attached to him.
You’re on date 2, he says he wants to be a father one day, and you’re already imagining him being your baby daddy, while you don’t know how he handles conflict yet or if he even wants a relationship, and you’re already imagining introducing him to your friends and family, thinking they would get along. GIRL, pump the brakes.
And if you end up in a relationship, you make him the centre of your world, you are constantly emotionally up and down, and it ends up feeling so exhausting.
Here's what nobody says out loud about women like you: You're someone who cares deeply, who wants nothing more than to build something real with someone, who has so much love to give and wants nothing more than to be loved.
And wondering what’s wrong with you and why this always happens to you? Looking around you and seeing your friends in happy relationships or being pursued by a guy she started seeing or moving on quickly when things don’t work out, while you’re always the one begging to be loved or chosen, while you spend months obsessing and feeling not good enough when things ended in the past.
And somehow, despite all of that, you keep ending up in the same place where you give your all and end up feeling unloved or unwanted even if you are in a committed relationship and he reassures you. Confused about where it all went wrong, lying awake in bed crying on your pillow that is filled with black mascara patches, trying to figure out whether you said something, did something, were something that made him pull away or lose interest somewhere along the way.
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You check how long ago he was active, even though you told yourself you wouldn't overthink. You reread your last few messages not once but four or five times, trying to gauge if he is changing with you or losing interest. You notice he watched your Instagram story within thirty seconds but still hasn't replied to your message from three hours ago, and somehow that one detail takes up the next two hours of your day.
You start timing your replies so you don't seem too available. You leave your evening free just in case he asks to see you, then feel the specific kind of disappointment that comes from waiting for something that never actually got suggested. You catch yourself checking his location, then immediately feel ashamed that you checked. You start getting jealous of every woman he interacts with, even if it's his aunt (lol joke, but almost)
You're on a night out with your friends, everyone's laughing, and you're laughing too, but part of your brain is somewhere else entirely; you cannot stop thinking about him.
You tell yourself out loud, "I'm not going to think about this anymore."
Then you find yourself checking your phone and not being able to get him off your mind for another 3 hours.
And that's exactly what we're getting into inside this free masterclass.
Even if you've already done the work. Even if you've been to therapy, read books, learned about attachment styles, told yourself a hundred times to slow down or detach. If you're still finding yourself back in this same place? There is one specific pattern still running underneath all of it.
And until you understand what it is and what's actually driving it, no amount of self-awareness, willpower or "next time I'll do better" is going to change where you keep ending up.
The reason why love/ dating/ relationships look so easy to others but feel so damn hard for you, like it's the part of your life you always end up failing at…. Is not cause you’re unlucky in love; it's DEFO not cause you’re not beautiful enough or because you’re unlovable; it's because you keep repeating the same pattern and mistakes that lead you to feel so much hurt and pain.
INSIDE THIS FREE masterclass YOU WILL LEARN:
Why the second you develop feelings for someone, your sense of sanity, confidence and emotional stability goes out the window.
How you feel starts depending on how much attention he's giving you, and why no amount of self-talk seems to change that
Why one shift in his energy, one shorter message, one evening where he seems a little distant can completely change how you feel about yourself
and what that's actually telling you about the pattern underneath
Why you end up ignoring what doesn't feel right, making excuses for behaviour that hurts you, and staying in situations that, deep down, you know aren't good for you
whether you've been seeing someone for three weeks or three years.
are you the problem or is it him?
Are you valid or is it your anxiety? Is he in the wrong? Is he the right guy for you? Here we unpack this and bring you all the clarity you need
The five mistakes that unknowingly keep women stuck in the same painful cycle
and why most of them have nothing to do with the men they're choosing.
The missing piece that explains why you keep ending up in the same place
and what finally has to shift for the pattern to actually stop repeating itself.
The tree theory explains why, no matter how much effort you put into dating and relationships and self-work you do, you still find yourself hurt and disappointed
A bonus somatic practice exercise that will help you start shifting this pattern inside your body
not just understand it in your mind.
This will show you exactly the number ONE thing that will truly change this for good
This is for you if:
You fall hard and fast, and no matter how many times you tell yourself to slow down, once you have feelings for someone, your heart is already all in
You love deeply and give everything, but somehow you always end up feeling like you love or want him more than he does, or like no matter how much you give, it never quite feels like enough
The moment his energy shifts, even slightly, your whole day shifts with it, and no amount of logic or "I know I'm probably overthinking" actually makes the spiral stop
You've stayed in situations, relationships or dynamics that weren't giving you what you needed, because the fear of being alone, or of losing him, felt worse than the reality of staying
When you're single you feel more like yourself, calm, grounded, clear (even if you feel lonely and want to find someone) but then the moment someone you like comes into the picture, your thoughts, your mood and your whole world start revolving around him
You feel a big fear of being replaced by another woman, even if you’re a girls girl, you find it impossible not to feel jealous or threatened by other women when you’re with a guy
You're exhausted by how hard your love life feels for you, when it seems to come so easily to everyone around you, and part of you has started wondering if it will ever actually feel different (and tempted to give up on love)
This is not:
A masterclass about playing games, acting unbothered, or making him chase you.
If that's what you're looking for, I say this with love, but that approach keeps the wound alive. It changes the behaviour on the surface while everything underneath stays exactly the same. And that's exactly why it never actually works long term.
We don't do surface level here; we go to the root of why this keeps happening. Because that's the only place anything actually changes.
I know what it feels like to give everything to someone hoping it would make them stay. I know the shame that comes after. I know the exhaustion of being completely self-aware, knowing exactly what you're doing, and still not being able to stop. I know what it's like to lie awake replaying a conversation, to feel your whole mood shift because of one message, to wonder why love always feels this hard for you when it seems to come so easily to everyone else. There was one day when a guy I was seeing ghosted me, which almost ended my life. I was holding a knife to my chest in the kitchen as I was on my knees because the pain was too much, unbearable; I couldn’t take it anymore and I wanted it to end. I didn't see any light at the end of the tunnel, why does this always happen to me? What's wrong with me?
I'm Anthea, a Somatic Therapist and Self-Worth Coach, and someone who has personally lived through every single pattern I helped women heal in the past 7 years.
Thankfully, I stopped myself thinking of my loved ones finding me and since then not only have I been able to heal, but over the last seven years, I've worked with hundreds of women who came to me knowing their patterns and still feeling completely stuck, and I've watched them change day by day. Not because they got more information, but because they finally did the work needed.
I'm not here to judge you for a single thing you've done or felt. I'm here to help you finally understand yourself, maybe for the first time in a way that actually makes sense.
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frequently asked questions
Yes, completely, just a real masterclass with real value.
Absolutely, these patterns don't only show up in dating. If you lose yourself when you're with someone, seek constant reassurance, spiral when he goes quiet or distant, or feel like your emotional state depends on how he's showing up, this is for you too.
Yes, because if you’re still here, it means you’re still struggling. So there is a missing piece that you will understand inside this masterclass, as well as the somatic practice.
I hear that, especially if you've consumed content before that left you feeling judged, overwhelmed or like you're the problem. This isn't that. Most women finish this masterclass feeling two things: relief, because something has finally been explained in a way that actually makes sense, and hope, because they can see for the first time that this is genuinely something that can change.
Around 90 minutes, I suggest you watch it all in 1 go (you can even 2x the speed) and then when doing the somatic practice you do that with (1x speed) if you’re like me and don’t have patience to be sitting down for long. This masterclass will not be accessible for free for long and doing it in one sitting will be most beneficial.